Do women compromise more in a relationship?



Are all adjustments in a relationship made by the woman? Or, is that just what she would like us to believe? We explore the flexibility quotient of the sexes

Iknow of women out there who've based their entire lives on sacrifice. Yet, even as I say this, I know the definition of compromise in a relationship is changing. The empowered woman of today is constantly questioning every compromise that's asked of her. I feel that the term 'compromise' was coined to make the partner feel grateful. But that was the old school of thought.

Now, compromise has become a negotiating point in a relationship. If a woman compromises, she won't let the man forget about the sacrifice made! In that moment, compromise loses its purity. It becomes a trade-off. It becomes something akin to a business transaction.

Traditionally, men have always wanted women to compromise in a relationship. Even today, in a remote place , women are still compromising more than men. However, in the metroes, there's a quiet change happening in the emotional equation of the genders.

With time, the definition of compromise has undergone a drastic change as well. Ten years ago, a compromise may have involved making huge sacrifices. But today, it's more about taking practical decisions, either by the man or the woman. Both partners have to compromise sometime or the other to keep the relationship going. Frankly, I don't think it's a negative emotion anymore. It's all about managing a situation and timely damage control. Compromise is also about controlling your reactions to a situation, thinking positive and having a strategic solution. I believe that women can master this art and make men their slaves forever!

THE Indian society is pretty much male dominated. So women, whether working or otherwise, compromise much more than men. The woman tends to make adjustments, which the man conveniently dismisses as 'being understanding'. Even at the initial dating stage, for the man, it is a casual affair, while the woman generally thinks in terms of marriage. So she tries to conform to her partner's desires.

And if you are married, right from taking care of the house to tending to the kids, women take everything upon themselves. We live in a society where it is de rigeur for a woman to tend to her man's ego. Of course, today, more women are earning, so they do have the requisite financial freedom. But women still, by and large, tend to be in a submissive state.

However, having said that, let me add that now I see a glimmer of hope. There has been that leap of emancipation among women in certain sections, mainly in double income nuclear families. Today, even men change diapers, run errands for the house, take note of their children's home work, etc. Unlike the West, we are yet to reconcile to the idea of house husbands, but some of our men are moving towards it. Like my husband, Raj Kaushal. He takes more responsibility where running the house is concerned, and it is because of that that I can afford to work the way I do. Of course it helps that he works from home! But I can proudly say that it is he who has invested more into strengthening our relationship. And this, without any injury to his ego.

If this is not compromise, what is?

The title says,

'Do Women Compromise More In A Relationship?'


Well, I'll say a BIG NO. Its not that woman is only who does compromise, atleast not in my family. It's allways said that woman does this... that... I understand, yeah she does a lot of things, but I have seen my father also, not allways man, but they also does compromise.

This debate has no end. The truth is, compromise is something which is the need of relationship to make it normal. It doesnt matter who comes up and does it, but if nobody does then that may be the end of relationship.

My answer is in the middle coz man and women both have to make compromises. Suppose harris u like one thing i dont like it i like something else so one day we would do your thing and one day my thing u get my point? so i believe compromises r done from both man and women

this whole topic i read in Saturday's 28th May Times of India

wow siya read tat in times... definately those points r not written by... and its an debate section... we r not asking u where u read tat topic, i m just asking your debating point on the topic.... and for u info... i came across this article on net...

oh really it was the same ... i mean each n every word is same dear .. i remember them by heart  coz i read it for vocabulory u see .. So i m just telling u its the 100 % copy of tat article n btw i know tat its there on net tats wat u call epaper    n The article is given by Raghavendra Rathore n Mandira Bedi ........ n will give my view on it later on ...

Is it a debate or explaining the topic to be a personal creation.

Anyway I feel that it is same from both side. Women are more sensitive and they think more but Men are good on making decision. So we need both.

Life is a mix of sweet and sour. If one thing is missing other one will definitely not taste good.

On the contrary...as things are happening in reverse and women are exploiting Men everywhere. Bollywood shows this more..watch ANKAHEE aur AITRAAZ.

I will write more after seeing the reply but please end this argument where the topic is found.

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I agree tht but the important thing is share of each individual.

I agree that Women were considered second category people after Men. But 21st Century has indeed changed this view. Now they stand togather and do stuff same way.

Noone is obliged. this is the reason for increasing no. of divorces. Now Women are not ready for sacrifices. But Men have to prepare their mentality to accept it. This is something that lacks in this scenario.

Tell me more...!!!

Ab

See...now things are changing. Women are not ready to do more sacrifices than a man can do.

But this thing is limited to metro areas only or places where Women are well educated. overall...women compromise in a relationship is more than a man can do. No question about that.

I hope women get more educated soon.

Ab

That's not gonna change any time soon... men and sons are still preffered than women and daughters... change isnt gonna happen overnight...

This is another perception. If you see an educated girl...he might love to have a baby boy instead of girl.

On the other hand a well educated men always look for a baby girl...not a boy.

the fact is....If woman don't find they were looking for in their husband then they want a son to be like her ideal and vice versa for man.

Just tell me the truth...do u wan a baby girl or a boy...I know you wan a lil Sachin or Shahrukh....not Ash or Saniya...

^i agree with u, Ab.